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I have been quite for a while, since I got a lot of changes in my life; however, I found the time to start up my writing skills again.
Last September I moved out from Panama to Solwezi, Zambia; which is a town located at the north part of Zambia (if you don’t know where is Zambia, well is in Africa). From here I have been working for a mining company as a civil engineer in the roads department (construction of roads and earthworks). Therefore: new places, new people, new experiences, new accents, new languages, new food… in conclusion: everything is new for me in this place.
In the last 2 weeks, I got the responsibility to supervise a team work; which brings me more in touch with the people working for this company. Even though, I have been surrounded by this guys all the time I have been here, I hadn’t have the chance to go deep in their lives up to now. Digging up about their lifestyle and even looking carefully at what they do day-to-day always make me wonder about many things about life and how different our society behaves from one side to the world to another.
At this point, I must confess that I am in love with people, as simple as it is; it does not matter the country, skin color, religion, political preferences… I just like the way human beings are so different to each other and at the same time how close can we be. This feeling about people has increased because of the curiosity of being in a foreign country with a bunch of people from other places; therefore my brain is hunger of knowledge to understand every single situation.
Looking at the guys I work with and how they give you a smile everyday for free is priceless, specially when you are aware about all the problems they could be facing at home; which we consider in our countries as very hard moments of our lives, it’s hard to believe how they can give a smile. Looking at their eyes and innocence coming out of it, my heart is telling me to stay with this people and learn how to be like them in a certain way.
To conclude (as an essay), enjoy what you have today and learn how to appreciate every second of life…
I don’t know why I just felt simply passionate with the idea of writing this post. Even though, men in general will hate it, I worked on it anyway. As most of you may know, I’m a very proud women with a profession in so many cases, with higher percentage of men than women. It is a reality that we are not living in 1800’s or early 1900’s and is also a matter of fact that women education and professional role has developed tremendously but it is also true that we are today facing some little and big problems in our society in general and work place.
Let’s start talking about society. What (most) society expects for a women on her nearly 30’s? baby’s, marriage, taking care of home and kids, bla bla bla. Now, I analysed my friends, which they have accomplished professional and personal goals, but no one of them related to the points I mentioned before. Are we just not paying attention of what we need to do or we are just looking for what we actually want?… I might say: it depends!… obviously it depends on what you want… but always about what you really want nor what others want you to be!. If Deydi decided to have a baby after her 30’s or why not 40’s… you will hear people talking about that maybe she will never find a guy!… Come on!…. Let’s the girls to live her life’s as they want!.
Moving on tothe workplace (my favourite one)… Right now I’m working for a construction company… and guess what? I can calculate maybe 30 managers so far… and guess what? no one of them is a women…. I will encourage you to analyse where are your working for right now, I’ll bet less than a half of the managers are women. Today I have heard something that I was shocked… a guy (who is looking for a new girlfriend) told me.. there is nothing here at this office… there aren’t any women who is manager or something like that. Crazy right?. Men wants a girl which has to be a high profile worker and also a person who has to give birth, clean the house, cook, etc.
People look at me and ask me if I’m working in Human Resources or IT Services, I might not be able to work on field as any other man, really?. I know, is not easy to be under the sun all day and then get home and prepare dinner, but is not impossible. What about being a supervisor, manager or whatever they called today those people taking very important decisions.. we can do it!… as we did it before to be where we are right now.
To all that women out there.. working so hard to maintain a family… I say: Thank you for be how you are, and for those women looking for opportunities to step up in any field.. please don’t give up!
Those 7 month I have been in a foreign country reminds me the idea of “Friends”. We all know we are sociable beings; therefore, be alone is related to personal behavior problems. In conclusion, by nature, we need to be surrounded by other people. After been socializing, hearing and learning from other people, I think I’m moving forward better social knowledge, I guess.
This necessity of being sociable makes some people’s life a complete challenge: get friends, be nice, be “normal”, be likable; and at the same time, it brings to your mind these questions: What am I supposed to say?, What am I response?, I’ve been rude?. Waooo, where can I study to get those skills and not dye trying to learn it?… And… it gets worst when you see how easy is for other people to make new friends, have fun or be notable in a group.
Rodny, Daniela, me and César… December 2013, sharing experiences.. keeping updated about each other life.
I have to be honest, in my case, never ever have been easy to start a conversation or even worst to make the other people feel confortable with me…There are several reasons to feel in this way: 1. Lack of self confidence, 2. Anxiety, 3. Stress, 4. Uninterested in other people. All those are related to each other in some point, and all have a solution!…
I’ll tell you a secret, if you ask anyone: how do you feel when you have to approach another person the first time, I’m 100% sure everyone would say: nervous; even though is the most sociable person you’ve ever met you’re talking to. Keeping that in mind, will help you to send far away all those ideas that are making you feel really awkward sometimes.
Some steps you can use to start or make conversation:
1. Weather, is an old one, but today I heard a person starting a conversation: “Is it snowing out there?”… after, 5 people where talking about it…(and it is obvious snow outside is falling since yesterday)
2. Sports, just ask about any sport game: Soccer, Hockey or even Jacks.. and remember, don’t denigrate any sport.
3. What did you do during the weekend?
4. Movies!…. do you like movies?… share your opinions about it… and be respectful with others opinion.
5. Random and stupid stuff, I know a guy who is always talking about nothing and laughing, and guess what?… is such an interesting person… For example: let’s talk about Whatsapp problems on sunday!… 4 hours of non-chating!……………………..
Free yourself and enjoy others ideas… that’s it.
Bringing back the topic “Friends”, I could say we all have people we really want to be near with; people you have things in common, ideas, hobbies, etc; but, there is the people who shine up over the rest, these person who is always (or try to be) by your side in important moments even if they’re are so far away. However, as any other relationship, has to be maintained through ups and down, with love, compression, forgiveness. That’s he reason real friends are very special.
I believe in friendship…. and I believe all of us have a soul mate in some place; maybe, just take look at your side.
I want to dedicate this post to all those amazing people i have met during all my life in Panama and for all those incredible people I have met in the last 7 month here in Canada….. I enjoy every moment with you…
By the way, I really recommend this song to you guys!…
One Republic – What you wanted